Why is it that most of the time we make our judgments and decisions based on mere physical appearances ? Why is it that we fail to look beyond beauty ? Why is it that we like only perfect things though we may be comfortable being imperfect ourselves ?
We learn so much about inner beauty , real person/thing , deceptive appearances etc yet very happily fall for the thing that meets the eye and love what we see. I have often wondered if such a love is true and to what extent .We are very comfortable being with people like us but when it comes to some one who is differently abled or someone who needs constant support , be it even an ailing person ,or say an aged relative who needs a little extra care, our views and feelings change! Initially we are overwhelmed with a feeling of pity, empathy, etc etc . but beyond that we are not very comfortable with them. If it has to be something like taking care of them or even something as simple as helping them cross a road , we feel hesitant , coz it is embarrassing/time consuming/burden for us. We are not very comfortable taking care of them , which explains the increasing number of youngsters who are willing to pay a little extra and put their old parents in old age homes rather than take care of them at home. They feel they are fulfilling their duty by paying for their expenses whereas what they might have actually needed is a little of their time and care.
In the same way we are ready to preach , about how we need to help the differently abled but when it comes to actually helping them we conveniently turn a blind eye. But we do claim we feel sorry for their condition and we would love to “ do something” for them !! While we “appreciate” their struggle against odds , we are not willing to accommodate them as one among us or even fight for their rights.
Are we capable only of loving fancy things ? beautiful things ? perfect things ? And what after the beauty fades ? does the love also fade away? was it ever there to fade away ? was it love or mere infatuation or say a relationship for mutual gain ? We seem to like those to whom we needn’t give much but who can give us much… We claim to “feel” for someone but cant actually love that person if he /she needs extra time/effort from my side …. What is this supposed to be ? I feel we are supposed to be called HYPOCRITES !!and that all Love is an ILLUSION.. ..
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A good one. So true, all of us are talkers, but when it comes down to the job, most of us are shirkers. But to say that all love is an illusion is a step too far. There are some relationships where the love gets only stronger with age and loss of beauty. In essence, of course, love is love only when there are no expectations, no "strings", attached. Though these cases are rare, they still happen, and quite routinely at that. The core of the matter is that we need people, whether we like to acknowledge it or not. Love is a way of creating bonds and would always remain so.
Highly matured thoughts put up into writing.
This post should be an eye-opener for the youngsters who are in a mad race running towards their ambitions.
Its really nice to see your ideas and the way it has been put across. I would like to agree to most of what you have said, but not all. I still believe that Love can't be illusion. Love means freedom, the problem is that we want to cling to people, which makes it not love but infatuation. Only those who are ready to become nobodies are able to love.Its not that you are in love now you are love. But then to know the truth you have to come out of this state too.
When love and hate are both absent everything becomes clear and undisguised.One can only attain this state in silence as no words or emotion can help you understand it.
For once i totally agree with you... most of the time we keep making a huge noise about how we would like 2 do dis or do dt.. but then nothing seems to materialise atleast in most of the cases. Its as if everyone is wrapped up in a cocoon and the outside world just exists to satisfy us. If something gr8 happens to us its bcoz of wat we did.. and wen somethng goes wrng then its the world at fault.
A lot of indifference has set in. even if an old man tries to cross the road most of us would not even remember seeing him... because we seem to be rushing forward with our "so called" lives.
But then there are still a few of us who ould stop to help him.. And as long as those few exist love can never be an illusion.
Also about love,the reason expectations soar high in any relationship is bcoz even though the ones we love are imperfect we tend to expect perfection from them and they from us. and in most cases the higher expectations and effort from both sides only helps in strengthening the relationship further..... If love itself becomes an illusion then nothing else can remain a non-illusion......
Thanks punchi ,chandy,nihcas and aswini. While i agree that its a little too far to say all love is an illusion ,and that one has to be selfless to be able to love unconditionally .. but doesn't that mean losing ones identity sometimes to do that Vj? what could be the use of losing yourself . it would make more sense to be able to be yourself and still love unconditionally.. and ya love is a way of creating bonds and these bonds are formed knowingly or unknowingly for the mere purpose of mutual benefit or existence and once it demands more than just that we no longer speak in terms of bond ; only burden ...
But agreed there are people who do know the worth of a person and what it takes to love truly .. i hope that love is not limited to the other party's physical appearance or their being able bodied ... and hope that we look beyond these to discover the real beauty in a bond
Good one.. There are exceptions too. We always tend to look at the dark side of things. For once, I am not sure I will be able to comment on this subject.. as I feel my view could be too optimistic considering all comments. Good Job..
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