An Illusion ???

Why is it that most of the time we make our judgments and decisions based on mere physical appearances ? Why is it that we fail to look beyond beauty ? Why is it that we like only perfect things though we may be comfortable being imperfect ourselves ?
We learn so much about inner beauty , real person/thing , deceptive appearances etc yet very happily fall for the thing that meets the eye and love what we see. I have often wondered if such a love is true and to what extent .We are very comfortable being with people like us but when it comes to some one who is differently abled or someone who needs constant support , be it even an ailing person ,or say an aged relative who needs a little extra care, our views and feelings change! Initially we are overwhelmed with a feeling of pity, empathy, etc etc . but beyond that we are not very comfortable with them. If it has to be something like taking care of them or even something as simple as helping them cross a road , we feel hesitant , coz it is embarrassing/time consuming/burden for us. We are not very comfortable taking care of them , which explains the increasing number of youngsters who are willing to pay a little extra and put their old parents in old age homes rather than take care of them at home. They feel they are fulfilling their duty by paying for their expenses whereas what they might have actually needed is a little of their time and care.
In the same way we are ready to preach , about how we need to help the differently abled but when it comes to actually helping them we conveniently turn a blind eye. But we do claim we feel sorry for their condition and we would love to “ do something” for them !! While we “appreciate” their struggle against odds , we are not willing to accommodate them as one among us or even fight for their rights.
Are we capable only of loving fancy things ? beautiful things ? perfect things ? And what after the beauty fades ? does the love also fade away? was it ever there to fade away ? was it love or mere infatuation or say a relationship for mutual gain ? We seem to like those to whom we needn’t give much but who can give us much… We claim to “feel” for someone but cant actually love that person if he /she needs extra time/effort from my side …. What is this supposed to be ? I feel we are supposed to be called HYPOCRITES !!and that all Love is an ILLUSION.. ..